You are missing people. What to do?
As some of my readers may know, I intend to leave Romania for a year and go and live in cities around the world. Of course, it sounds good, everybody is envious of me, but there are some issues that may appear, issues that do not seem so important when you are preparing to leave and thinking of things like where to live, how much the rent will be, will you have an internet connection already?
My visit to Antalya helped me find one of the “non-existent issues”: you are missing people. People around me seem to like me (beats me why :D ) and I get quite attached to people in a short period of time. Yes, I know, I shouldn’t do that, but this is who I am and I feel good the way I am. More, you have to get attached to people, or else we would be living in small boxes, alone, not in communities.
Before leaving for Antalya, Daniel, the guy that “forced” me into JCI, told me that people may start crying when leaving the World Congress, but I made fun of him (sorry for that, man). I didn’t really believe you can get so attached to the people around you during such short periods of time. But, man, was I wrong. I didn’t really see anybody crying, but now I can understand what he was talking about.
So, what do you do when you realize that you cannot leave a city for the next destination, just because there are people you feel you got attached to? Of course, think not only about being in love (which only takes one glance, doesn’t it? :) ) or some summer fling, but about all the friends you might make there. What will happen then?
We live in a global village, we communicate faster than ever before. My best friend from childhood lives in a city 400km from Bucharest, we see each other 2-3 times a year, but I know everything about his family, about his work, I see live images of his newly born boy a.s.o. Still, I would love to be able to stay and talk over a beer and some pizza more than 2-3 times a year.
It is not as bad as it may sound. You still have options: you may decide to stay there longer, you may take the person with you (if you fall in love), you may come back from time to time. Unfortunately, when you will leave, some part of you will remain there and it will follow you a long time.
So, do YOU miss anybody? I would love to hear what you did in similar situations.
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Comentarii Wordpress: Afiseaza
Din acelasi motiv nici eu nu ma pot desparti de Iasi pentu Bucuresti sau alte locuri desi poate din anumite puncte de vedere mi-ar fi mai bine.
English, Adrian, English :P
Still, I will leave Romania for sometime. Missing people beats not meeting them at all :)
Well my friend, there are compromises one has to make sometimes. The new friends you will make (and I bet some of them will be among your best ever – at least in my case) while traveling and your way larger vision for life compensates for missing people for a number of months. Contact stefan.palarie123123i-interact.ro (former JCI member in Romania) for a glimpse of what you are after – though don’t do it today, he just became a father 3 hours ago.
Marius, thanks for the comment.
I do believe what you say, I understand that I have to actually accept the feeling in order to know more people and to get a different vision on life :) But this doesn’t make it any more easier :)